Usually a woman leaving an abuser with kids is not getting a fair deal even when she gets a legally “fair” deal. And Ginger is not getting a fair deal with only $88 a week in child support from her ex while she has her almost all the time and bears the lions share of emotional and financial costs. Even my very fair deal is not fair now that my cheap ex has declined to contribute to any of the needs our adult children have needed help with, including our Aspergers son and my middle son who has Ehlers Danlos syndrome and other serious medical problems. In fact he’s largely abdicated parenting altogether, leaving it all on my shoulders while he pretends he’s thirty with his child bride. Must be nice to walk away from all your family responsibilities.
Generally, the statistics show that women suffer, on average, far worse financially than men after divorce. A recent study on gray divorce (after 50) which you can find in pubmed shows: “ Results: Women experienced a 45% decline in their standard of living (measured by an income-to-needs ratio), whereas men's dropped by just 21%. These declines persisted over time for men, and only reversed for women following repartnering, which essentially offset women's losses associated with gray divorce. ”.
The study goes on to say that few women go on to live with a partner after divorce in this age group.
