The divorce that won't end

[BL42]

The obvious question for the WAS is "Why bother?". I have two friends who are WAS (to lousy ex's) and have no plans to finalize their divorces, because their attorneys say the temporary settlement is better than the long-term settlement. If their ex's value the closure of that piece of paper, they'll have to sweeten the long-term settlement, or wait a few more years.

WTF?

I gotta say I had the same reaction as DnJ. Traveler's comment really came across poorly. The FBI raid a secretly felon spouse is a bit of an extreme outlier, no? There context here is kml's thread whose H has been living with OW for three years and is actively fighting not to divorce her. Using time and the LBS's need for closure as leverage for a bigger financial win is just another example of selfishness...along with breaking their vows and living with his affair partner.