I can promise you one thing you definitely are not going to snap her out of it. You either need to put your life on hold and wait it out or do the filing and move on with your life. If it clears your conscience you can have one more your either in or you’re out convos. I had to start all over again at 50 and two kids so for you it will be even easier. Sometimes these things just don’t work out and you learn from your mistakes and move on.
