k, yes, technically legal. And yes some people do this. However, morally? What type of person purposefully causes more pain and anguish just because they can.
The type who prioritizes themselves and their children over an ex. At least for me and my friends, causing our ex's anguish wasn't the motivator. It took years for me to be close enough to my ex to realize how much a lack of closure bothered her, and to be close enough to prioritize soothing her feelings when finalizing cost money and did nothing for me.
And then there's the person who says to their spouse that it is perfectly ok to take care of themselves and cause as much damage as possible in the process, and oh well, the kid is just collateral damage.
Is there such a thing as a normal WAS? I think not. It's my opinion, feel free to disagree, but that is what I've observed in others and lived through myself.
I am entitled to my own $.02
KAS, hang in there, a moment at a time if necessary, on the bad days. You will get through this, I promise.
This is a divorce busting forum. Most of us came here to find a way to save our marriages, not walk away from them in a "normal" fashion, whatever that means.
And as for the WAS trigger warning perhaps it would be wiser to know your audience a bit more.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
