The divorce that won't end

[Traveler]

k, yes, technically legal. And yes some people do this. However, morally? What type of person purposefully causes more pain and anguish just because they can.

The type who prioritizes themselves and their children over an ex. At least for me and my friends, causing our ex's anguish wasn't the motivator. It took years for me to be close enough to my ex to realize how much a lack of closure bothered her, and to be close enough to prioritize soothing her feelings when finalizing cost money and did nothing for me.

T, do you try to hit a nerve?

I share where "normal" WAS come from when it seems LBS are shocked or confused by their behavior. By "normal" I mean the other side of a broken relationship. MLCrs and serial cheaters are truly aliens to me. I should've added a "WAS Perspective" trigger warning. No, I did not intend to strike a nerve with you. Peace, DnJ.

And their ex is the lousy person? Pretty sure their (ex)spouse would say different,

Sure. Villainizing an ex is common, whether you're a WAS or LBS.

Friends? No way man! They’d not be with me. Oh, if you pay more maybe I’ll sign, otherwise wait a few more years. What a messed up person. Karma will strike!

DnJ, I get that comes from a place of pain. My friend awoke one day to an FBI raid and discovered her H was a dangerous felon. Choice #1 was to stay, leave with 50/50 custody, or leave with 100% custody--she took 100% custody. Choice #2 was to prioritize his feelings by finalizing the divorce, or prioritize her daughter's feelings by keeping the family home--she chose her daughter. Karma did strike in a way--her church took up a collection to pay her legal fees and keep it in limbo. I get he sees her as an evil lady who keeps her from his daughter and won't divide the house so he could buy another.

My friends reflect my values too. Respect, trust, honour, responsibility, accountability, sincerity, and such.

This friend reflects my values. I'm glad your friends reflect yours.