I could have written a lot of your first post. All these situations rhyme.
James Dobson wrote Love Must Be Tough - he is with Focus on the Family and some of the book helped me wrap my head around the fact that if a spouse leaves us, we will not be held accountable. That was a big deal for my mindset. 1 Corinthians 7:15 - I think this passage gives you a degree of clearance to go and live in peace. Consider getting that book at the library to skim through.
A book that my counselor referred to me (I go every other week and though I don't like it, I think its healthy when dealing with this situation) was Heartbreak, Mourning, Loss by Ginette Paris. Its short and quick and helped me understand the stages of heartbreak I was going through and began to give me tools to work through it.
My divorce will be final 2/28/2022. I've got two kids caught in the middle and I'm 43. If you WAW is gone, consider finding a way to make peace with it.
And funny enough, the only way to possibly get her back is to move forward.
