To be honest - I am not sure your husband is a "typical WAH" or that our advice to you should be similar to those we give to other newcomers.
Whilst I agree that your H has fired you as his wife - based on what you have explained - he is also Abusive. You titled your post "verbal abuse" but spying with cameras is also a form of abuse. You said he would rather hit a wall than you... is that because he has done so? Does he hit or throw things?
Of course we can only go off of what you tell us but my gut says to be very careful Cathy. Defiance of standing up for oneself usually escalates the abuse. Use caution and please have a safety plan in place.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
