Cathy, the quicker you're able to shift your energy away from him and towards yourself, the more your H feels it, the more those distance-pursuer dynamics work for you. These situations usually take years to play out, but sometimes they take months. Do your best. See what happens. Post daily about what you're doing to GAL vs. what interactions you're having with him.
I was surprised that you're still cooking for him. Maybe you've made other changes. What are you doing differently since joining so you don't follow the usual slow crawl to divorce?
