H'S retirement account is about $600,000 more than mine. The house was built in 2004, and we bought it for $212,000, we finished the Basement, put in a inground pool with a back yard paradise (my favorite part of the home) added quartz counter tops throughout, new updated lighting and have put in new carpeting all within the last 5 years. House is worth $400,000 ish, we will be having it appraised at some point. House is in good shape, no major repairs need to be done. But it is around 3300 sq. ft. I do not need all this room, but I could rent out the basement, as there is a full bath down there.
I don't know if I want to keep the house. I have been looking for smaller homes around the area and they are listed form $390,000 to $450,000. Unbelievable how much houses have skyrocketed.
Plus the taxes and insuruane is $650 a month. But if he keeps his job, he makes 350 to 400 a year, spousal support on that would be pretty good, and ATTY thinks we can get it for 9 to 10 years. I would need to get a job for insurance.
VENTING This is so overwhelming, I havent even really thought this though. Stupid H. Makes me so angry that he is destroying everything we just got done paying off. Just paid the house off Dec. 2020. He was so proud of what we did together, we always planned and saved and talked about our retirement, we both worked to so hard to get to this point, just ride out the next 10 ish years to early retirement, and now he just walks away from it all. The damage he is causing to me and our life is just such a waste of everything we did to get here. I am so sad, angry, disappointed, shattered, frustrated and disgusted.
OW is also going through D and from what her H tells me they are pretty much a even split. My H is gonna take it up the you know what. He is going to really get slapped financially, that has got to cause him, at some point, to stop and think WTF. Is she really worth it??? Part of me thinks maybe, just maybe that the finacial hit will wake him up to reality. But I am not holding my breath. And for what, the OW is disgusting, this is her 3 affair. She is going to cheat on him, pretty sure she already did with her H. And by no means is she a looker, he really did affair down. Not to sound arrogant, but friends have asked me what the heck is he doing with that??? And he calls that love, and special.(vomit) But he has a drinking buddy 24/7 now. Not sure how love is built on destroying lifes...????
I know, its not about her. But, UgHHHHHH I hate her.
