Hi K, I have been trying to GAL, winter in my area is brutal. I am looking forward to spring so I can get outside and do some yard work and get the pool ready for summer. I have been going out with friends to get out of the house a few times over the last 2 months. At first I couldn't even leave the house to go to the store. So for now, its a start, going to see if anyone is going out this weekend too. Right now ATTY is recommending that I do not get a job until after court when the set up support. So that will have to wait for now.
As for his stuff, he has taken all of his clothes, but the rest of his junk is still here. I can not do anything with it at this point until the D is final. It is stated in the D papers. And the love nest is a nasty run down house in a really bad neighborhood. He hasn't even been able to unpack all of his clothes due to it being so small. He has to park his $$$$ pretty truck in a 1 lane driveway outside. Totally not what he is accustom to. Our home is in a nice neighbor, with lots of space..He is really slumming it at the OW's..
I am doing what I can to look at all finances, but he has changed passwords on his work retirement accounts, but I did get into them before he changed them. My ATTy is handling all of that now. Court date in end of March to set temp. order for support.
He does not travel for work, and I don't think there has been anyone else in the past. I could be wrong, but after he came back from the trip in May of 2021, I could really feel and see the difference in the way he was acting. I have never seen that in the past. I have asked and he has denyed. Only thing he admits to is that he had started talking to other women before the A, what that means... not really sure. I did find some strange emails to questionable sites with women on it that he had sent his phone # to trying to get someone to call him. That was from October 2020.
Our marriage was not "perfect" but it was good.
Playing the Drums, that sounds awesome....I can play the drums on the WII rockband, but only on easy..lol
He did text me this morning to ask about my Dr. appointment yesterday. I let him know that the surgery is scheduled for next Monday and that I have the paperwork ready for tax filing. He said he would stop by on Saturday to pick it up. I kept my responses short and to the point. I am worried/nervous about seeing him on Saturday, I havent seen him since Dec. 3 and I miss him like crazy. It will be hard to see him and hold it together.
