Hi Stella, Very sorry you are going through this but as D said, you are safe here.
Stella, I'm going to say something that may be very difficult for you: your marriage is over.
Now, that does not mean your relationship with your husband has ended. It means that what was it no more, but what's to come is yet to be determined.
So, how do you get to the what's to come part?
Therein lies the rub: you must focus on you. Look around you. Look at your feet. There you are. That's where you start.
What small thing can you do today to make your current life easier? This may be something as simple as making sure you drink enough water, or eat something healthy. Baby steps will add up. You are allowing him to keep a foot in the marriage by reminding him of the life you had. Better to let him wonder what you're doing. We call this cake eating, and it will not give you what you want.
Read the chapter on MLC in Divorce Remedy. Understand that you have to focus on yourself right now, building a life and protecting your assets (which you've done a good job of thus far). Stay the course. We are here for you.
I understand. I was deeply in love with my husband when he left. Fortunately, I didn't need to watch it unfold on social media. My suggestion is you block them. If friends start to tell you stories of what he's doing, be very firm that you don't want to hear it (of course you want to hear it, but DON'T go down that rabbit hole), you're focusing on yourself right now. Set that boundary, for your own peace.
xo
Last edited by bttrfly; 02/02/2201:38 PM.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
