And the thing I tried to remind myself: these are grown men who have been disappointed in love before - they can handle it. I think we worry too much about "raising someone's hopes" by giving them another date and then telling them we've decided it doesn't work for us. But really, at this age, any reasonable guy should be able to handle the disappointment. I know when someone seems more interested in us than we are in them at first (which is NOT always the way it ends up!) it can feel like we need to manage their expectations. But you don't!
If there's nothing that you find a dealbreaker or totally off-putting, why not give him a chance to make a better impression? This is one area where blind dates and internet dating are a problem - they put too much pressure on these first meetings. IRL, you would have met this person somewhere, hopefully had time to observe him in his natural habitat and he might have grown on you before you started dating.
When I first met CMM, I wasn't blown away. And honestly, if not for his cancer, I'm not sure how long our relationship would have lasted, as he definitely had some issues that were not ideal for me. But on the other hand, I have never felt so completely loved by another person - he adored me and looked after me. He made my lunches for work and put them in his Star Wars lunch box, sometimes with a sweet note. The sex was, honestly, the best I've ever had (and I've had some pretty good sex in my lifetime!). I couldn't have predicted all that from the first two dates.
The sex was, honestly, the best I've ever had (and I've had some pretty good sex in my lifetime!). I couldn't have predicted all that from the first two dates.
