Living in the Light VI

[DonH]

Wow okay. So let me first say I am commenting in all honesty and not trying to be snarky. I will also admit and will likely repeat that I could turn this around and say it to myself at times. It’s just a thought but I think it’s worth considering. So here we go.

Is it possible it’s you? Is he too real, too much what you want and therefore too scary? The last two guys you dated were pretty clearly not a long term match, for age, for lack of job, for lack of direction and on and on. This guy is the real deal. You admit he’s exactly what you should want and thought you did want. The boys were too young - he’s your age. The boys didn’t have their sht together - he does. The boys were not sure where their lives were going - he does, he’s there. And this scares you!!!??? That’s as much a question as it is a statement.

I’ll say again I’ve gone through the same and may be getting into that arena again right now with someone. It’s one thing to date someone you know is not at your level. It’s a whole other to date your contemporary date your equal. It’s real and that can be scary. She will make me measure up or she will move on (at least that’s my assessment) she may also want more than I do. But not about me.

You may have found a guy that very much checks your boxes yet you’re not excited by him. So the question I see needing to be answered is, is it him or is it something inside of you? Tough question I know but it needs to be dug into. In the end it may be some of both. It still remains or at least appears the wrong guys excite you and the right guy does not or scares you or both.

I may be very correct or way wrong. It’s worth a look.