I really appreciate you sharing. And I will be completely honest and then back off.

If he is truly having psychoses and you are classifying MLC as a mental disorder, truth of the matter is, you can’t do anything about it but protect yourself. You can’t love him out of a mental breakdown. You can’t sacrifice yourself . He has got to be the one who does it.

When the behavior became inappropriate did you remove yourself from the situation? Or did you allow for it?

And like BL said, that behavior isn’t inappropriate . It’s abusive. If he physically hit you would you allow for it because he is going through a MLC and was “good” once in the past and because he shared other stuff with you?

You can love him from a distance, but you can’t be his therapist. Or where he lays out his abusive inappropriate behaviors. Remember, your kids are watching. And they are men. Who live their mother just like you love them. And will be become husbands one day, likely.

I am glad you are keeping distance now. I’m glad you set some boundaries. But I would hate to see him allowed in as soon as he decides to act half decent, only to trounce on you again.

You seem like a lovely woman. But you can fix him. It’s out of your Oy grade.

I’ll share something personal. My mother had a mental illness couples with addictions. Did she love me? I’m sure. But I didn’t feel loved. And I tried to “fix” her growing up by just thinking if I loved her enough, she would show me love back and it would fix whatever she was going through. In my late teens it became abusive when my dad left. She had a breakdown, I tried to fix her again, but she just resented me for still loving my dad. It carried over into my marriage. I chose a man who I hoped I could live out of his struggles and if I just worked hard enough and took enough and showed him I would be there no matter how awful he was to me , that he would chose not be that way anymore and chose me. Well, guess what. It didn’t work that way. I wish I protected myself more and I didn’t become a sacrificial lamb for either of them, because it messed me up.

Please, just please protect yourself and feel confident enough to walk away from abusive behavior. He is an adult and he needs to do this on his own . I wish you all the best