He didn’t get the door to running closed, and the pull back took him again. And none of his confusion has anything to do with you.D
Originally Posted by DnJ
MLC is amazing to witness. For those who haven’t witnessed it, yes quite unbelievable.D
Originally Posted by DnJ
Equally amazing is the alter egos that reside within these poor lost souls. Again, once you witness it. OMG. It is spooky!D
Correct DnJ. He came out of the tunnel, faced quite a lot of his fears, emotions and trauma's, couldn't handle them and ran back. This was pretty scary to watch TBH.
That is why my next comment will not reasonate with people who haven't witnessed an MLC'er in deep fog. I'll try to explain but I know many of you will completely disagree and I fully understand you as well. I would have had exactly the same reaction before all of this.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
A good boundary would be him not being able to come into bed and snuggle with you while he tells you he is going to pursue other women. You were scared not to in fear of driving him farther away. But you really have to think about boundaries and not allowing that to happen. MLC is not an excuse for blatant disrespect . Think about why you are allowing to do these awful thing . Think about the reason why you don’t put up boundaries around these behaviors.
Ginger, BL,
First of all, I want to tell you that you are correct when you say that this behavior is completely inappropriate.
The behavior of an MLC'er is ALWAYS inappropriate. I have been through a lot with him in the last 3 years and it is correct to say that for the first 1.5 years I was very afraid of losing him. Am I still afraid? Yes, afraid because he is completely losing it and because I now have to be very careful how I handle all of this. Afraid of losing him? No, that is no longer there. I already let him go that way.
I love G, but with MLC H I prefer to deal with him as little as possible.
Is his behavior from last week inappropriate? Of course, that's exactly why I decided to take the next step and that is to sell the house. BL, by the way, I'm already divorced, I've already drawn a line there too.
When he came into my room last week to lay down next to me and to talk, you could feel his fear, his confusion, his inner struggles. He said a lot more that night than the fact of him going back to OW2.
I can only describe it that at such a moment psychoses are present within him and it is very difficult for me to leave him alone at such a moment. It sounds really weird, I can't describe this and maybe I don't have to but believe me, at such a moment I'd rather wait until this is over and I can talk to him in a different way, which I did the day after.
It is clear to me that further steps had to be taken since he no longer realizes how bad he is doing.
