DnJ, I did have a pretty good Sunday! Thank you. I did some clean up in the yard and was remembering how I used to find comfort in weeding when things were crazy.
((may)) Wow, thank you for that recap. I think I really have done the work, and I also appreciate your reminder to keep asking the questions. That's one of the (many) things you were so good at in your sitch, always examining, always asking what it was you really wanted or needed at any given time.
BL, no worries. I do wish I would have embraced the D much earlier after BD, but I have been on my own timeline and needed the time it's taken to learn things and get where I am. I mean, I fantasize about throwing his stuff out sometimes! If only that would work (and a judge would approve).
Own, I am loving reading about your life post-D. I will have to update my L and see what she says. She did recommend we send a letter demanding disclosures within a short period, since he is well past the deadline now. She can spell out what will happen if he doesn't comply, and it'll mean filing a motion and an award of attorney fees for me. This will hopefully get his incompetent L moving.
I am fretting over the timing, whether she should just send it asap since he's already angry (the usual passive aggressive door-slamming and silent treatment, it seems). Or whether she should wait until I get back from a trip. I'm afraid of what he could do with the pets while I'm gone. I think this fear is irrational, but I feel weird not being here when all this is going down, on the heels of his getting angry about house guests. Then again, I really don't want to delay this any more!
