Cathy C, You mentioned this might be your third divorce. Can you give us a little backstory on those marriages? How long they were for? How those husbands treated you? How they ended?
Also - since you have no kids - a little break from the toxic environment might be beneficial. Do you have any friends houses you can stay at for a few days? What is your financial situation? Do you have access to funds or does your husband control the finances?
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
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