BL and buttrfly, thank you for the reassurance that I was indeed not overreacting. Funny how even though I knew this as it was unfolding, the doubts do rear up again. I am totally fine and have been for a while with him leaving; there’s no marriage to save, and he’d need to do a lot of internal work before he would be a good partner to anyone. Unfortunately, his name is also on the lease, and my L has informed me in the past there’s no way to remove him, short of coming to a divorce agreement, which we would be negotiating if he would share his disclosures so that we are on equal negotiating footing. Sigh. I will be reaching out to L to see if there’s anything else we can do to increase the chance things will move along. Now I need to work on shoring up my boundaries so that his angry reactions to my boundaries remain his. He can feel his feelings; I don’t want to take them on.
