CathyC, as BL42 said, stop "negotiating". If he wants a divorce, he should file for one, at which time your attorney can assess if his written offer is better or worse than a judge would award. You neither want to be an obstacle (by arguing) nor encourage it (by nicing). It sounds like your conversation did harm. The above is a do-no-harm approach.
I'm sorry you're staring down the barrel of a third divorce. I'm a romantic, divorced once, and even my second failed LTR was hard to face. I was able to pull her back using DB techniques--Cadet mentions Distance-Pursuer--before concluding we didn't work. Steve truly saved his marriage! GAL to rebuild yourself isn't easy but you are worth it and maybe he is to you. (Although, prioritize setting FIRM verbal abuse boundaries which will also help build you up.)
