I came to realize that MLC H doesn't want me but can't let me go. I on the other hand can let go of him, I do not need him anymore but I still want him. So we have kind of different expectations. LOL
Nicely put.
G was making progress. It’s unfortunate that his emotions and confusion are all stirred up again. G admitted about his Mom’s behaviour. Talked about his childhood psychiatrist. Talked about his younger years. There is a lot he is within reconciling. He didn’t get the door to running closed, and the pull back took him again.
And none of his confusion has anything to do with you.
Originally Posted by Eagle3
Should I put boundaries on anything or simply let him go and see where it goes?
Let him go. You know you have no choice in what he will do.
As for boundaries. You are doing well. I so agree with the quote.
Originally Posted by Eagle3
I'm only prepared to be there for him when he is not with somebody else. I told him that if you have her, you don't need me to be there for you. He disagrees because I'm the only one who knows him that well and he needs me to be his friend. I told him again, sorry, I won't do that. I don't want anything to do with you and OW2, this is your life, not mine.
In the vein of seeing where it goes: The next time, if there is a next time, he wants to return home. No. Have him stay somewhere else and date for a while first. Just a bit of a plan. Not quite a boundary, but you get the idea.
Originally Posted by Eagle3
if there are two things that I'm 100% sure of it is: 1/ MLC exists, never thought 3 years ago I would say this but when you have somebody that close going through it, you know it is for real 2/ Alter ego G has been present in recent weeks.
Amen!
MLC is amazing to witness. For those who haven’t witnessed it, yes quite unbelievable.
Equally amazing is the alter egos that reside within these poor lost souls. Again, once you witness it. OMG. It is spooky!
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Everything I say is used against me.
Oh my yes! MLCers cannot remember appointments, birthdays, to sign documents, or pretty much anything else. Yet, within their gnat-like memories they will recall with perfect clarity anything and seemingly everything that they can use to justify and blame you.
Originally Posted by Eagle3
He then immedately said he wanted to sell the house, he never wants me back, blabla, so I said, sure, we will do this immediately. Luckily I'm prepared so will get the contract next week. Upon his return from his trip he can sign the contract and we can move forward.
Good for you.
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Gaining some strength again to deal whatever comes on my path when he returns.
It is likely G will emerge or even return. I’d stay the course. Get the business side settled.
G is progressing. No doubts there. However, he needs much more time.
None of this really changes your path I think. For the next while anyhow.
Take care my friend.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
