Verbally Abusive

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I do have that lawyer retained. So, I feel like I’m ready there, either way.

Good. That knowledge and preparedness must be empowering.

I will stand firm that I will NOT live mortgage poor because of his greed.

Good. Stand firm in your rights and get the money/equity you deserve.

I do have a fear of being alone….because I am an only child with no children.

Sounds like an area to explore with your IC.

Then sometimes, I feel like I am just too old and exhausted to start over and I don’t want too.

Don't think of everything at once. Focus on small goals so you're not overwhelmed.

I DO know that I am miserable in this current married situation. I know that I should never allow someone to speak to me the way he does.

You should take the time to really ponder your words here.

I can’t fix him and that breaks my heart!!!

No, you can not fix him. We are not responsible for fixing anyone but ourselves.

I do feel like I am Working on me. I will continue to.

What does that look like? Would you share what you're doing to work on you?

And I will start with 180. This will be a challenge everyday because I am a giver and inherently a nice person. Yes, Steve….that does look like a doormat.

Good. Don't be a doormat. We haven't explored your history in detail but someone above mentioned - and I think they're on to something - that it sounds like you may have been a doormat in your previous two marriages . That's a pattern to address with your IC. Time to strengthen yourself!

I guess I have always been that way. I think it was learned behavior as I watched my mother be the exact same person and I literally hated my Dad for the way he treated her.

It's very difficult to break from what we were modeled. It takes awareness and resolve. Discuss it with IC and work on it.