I had to reread what I wrote when I saw that Don approved…lol. All good. I still stand by what I said.
G - Just wondering a bit more about what you mean when you say there was no “connection”. Good conversation, laughs, a physical attraction…. Aren’t all of those things indicative of some kind of a connection? I was thinking back to the date I just had and I’m not sure we made a “connection” in terms of what I think about when I hear that word. But it was a first meeting with someone I’d never had a voice conversation with or a video chat with so I’m not sure it would be realistic to expect there to be an emotional connection. You went into the date “not in the mood” and you enjoyed yourself. That’s saying something, I think.
When I got home the other night, my BIL asked me how my date went and I told him. I said I thought there would likely be a second date but I wasn’t “sure” if it would turn into something significant. He just looked at me and said, “Why would you need to know that right now?” So simple, right? Why do us overthinkers try to make it more than that? This guy is total relationship material… so much more so than the other two guys I actually had a relationship with. He has his sh*t together. Why would I not give a relationship with someone like that every opportunity to develop? I’d be a fool not to.
Also… I get what you are saying about being able to have a good time with almost anyone. I’m that way too. I’ve never been worried about awkward silences or other uncomfortable situations because frankly, as a social worker, I’ve been in the middle of situations that the minor discomfort of dinner with a stranger can’t even begin to approach so I have all of the confidence in the world that I can hold my own conversationally with anyone. I’m not sure that is fake or an act though…to me, it’s a skill and an honest interest in human beings and their lives and what makes them who they are. As a nurse, I can imagine that you are probably quite similar in that way.
