We did have 5 years of a wonderful relationship before we were married. He lived three hours away, yet traveled every weekend to my house for visits. I have not had an affair, nor have I sought out an affair. He knew about my trust issues because I disclosed them to him about my former exes that cheated and one of them was heavily into porn. The porn was after about 6 months of no type of intimacy's, what-so-ever. I seriously quit trying to find it or check a computer history because he is so computer savvy, he wouldn't make that mistake again. There are no children involved (from either of us). Steve, I seriously thought that after being called an effing C____ or b____ one more time that I would be the one to ask for the divorce. I have already sought out a lawyer and when he approached me about wanting to file a non contested divorce, I was surprised. Not only does he want half of the equity, but also wants to recover the $30,000 that he put into house restorations (from his inheritance). He wants a non contested divorce so that we do not have to hire lawyers and can "do this ourselves". I have done enough investigation to know that I can hire a lawyer and I can file an "at fault" divorce and we will likely not even get half of the equity. One, I don't want to be divorced and as I sit here and type these things, I ask why. Two, I do not want an ugly, costly divorce and divorces are SO expensive when you get into fault divorces. I appreciate all of your comments and advise and Steve, you are right....I am trying to be the "best wife that I can be", which is NOT making him miss me at all. It is just really hard with him still in the same house. I desperately want to keep peace and not have any arguing, so I try to make everything, "okay".
