CathyC,

Sorry you're here. That sounds very difficult. I'll try to weigh in more later when I have additional time, but two questions:

1) You're married 7 years, but how long were you together as a couple before marrying?
2) Are there any kids involved? Either together or from a prior relationship?

Me:39 Ex-W:37
M:7 T: 9
S:6 D:3
BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20
OM1 affair ends: May '20
W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20
W files for D: Jul20
OM2 confirmed: 9/2020
Divorced: May '21