Quote: It rained a huge amount here in Missouri last night. One of our cats (outdoor cats) jumped up on the porch and his fur was wet. I mentioned to my W, "Look at that. It's been a long time since I've seen a pussy that wet." She didn't react. Now come on, I was trying to be funny, and if you had heard my voice, you would have known that. I suppose this will be thrown back at me as "pressure." If so, I think her barometer is just plain broken.
I agree that the comment is funny, but if my husband said that (and it is the kind of thing he'd say) and if I was feeling guilty or aware in any way that my husband was dissatisfied with our sex life, it would have hurt and put more emotional distance between us.
If I felt close to him and he said something like, "Look, a wet pussy", I would have cracked up, and probably blushed, and it might lead to ML.
If we'd been apart for a long time (due to one of his many trips) and things were fine between us, and he told me this over the phone or in an email exactly as you said it, I would have found it funny because it would have been directed at the situation and not at me.
Just my two cents from an LD spouse who appreciates the sense of humor you bring to this board.
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. C. S. Lewis
