Long story short (a good reminder to believe actions, not words):
I discovered a few weeks before H was supposed to be moving out, he was not moving out. It fell through, he said, but he was still looking for a place. Fast forward to January—my dreams of having the house (finally!) to myself dashed, and I find out H has had a fever and other covid symptoms and didn’t bother to tell me, all while he’s still using my bathroom. He tested positive and luckily agreed to stick to his bathroom, his room, and wear a mask. Halfway through his isolation period, he wanted to use my bath instead of his. I asked him to wait until his isolation period was over, and he went off in a huff.
Somehow, I did not get covid. Ever since this, though, he seems to be more passive aggressive. He abruptly stopped using my bathroom at all post-covid, even though for the last two and a half years he’s taken a bath in it almost every day (good for me—I don’t have to clean up after him any more!).
He’s started working only in his room and keeping the door shut that separates the tiny front of the house/front door/his room. The pets can no longer use that part of the house, and if I want to leave through the front door, I have to now open this other door.
Today: I’m in a great mood, until I come home and find he has a girl in his room. The house is so tiny, I can hear all of their conversation, and I can’t focus at all. I don’t care if this is a friend or otherwise; the point is neither of us had had anyone else in the house since BD (summer 2019!). Once covid happened, this became even more important to me, because I don’t want to be exposed to his friends.
Question: what do I do? I am very angry at having my house infiltrated without his even running it by me (not that I’d expect that of him). I can’t enjoy a quiet evening after a very busy week at work. Who knows how long they’ll be in there. Right now I’m livid, but I assume these feelings will pass. I also assume he wants a reaction out of me.
Do I say nothing and hope it’s a one time thing? Or do I somehow attempt to set a boundary?
Ah, friends, I’m sorry to be posting for these reasons, yet I know you all will understand.
