I can only relate to what you state here. I truly believe as well that he still needs his own space to sort everything out for himself. He only doesn't see it that way. He feels more secure at home. He doesn't trust himself for the moment.
He does mention to do a retreat of some sort and that is what I weekly promote now, in the hope he will go forward with that.
I think he is waiting until he's back from a ski-trip with his best friend which is planned the end of this week. His friend asked to go with him about 2 months ago, since 4 weeks he is working on himself but didn't want to dissapoint his friend into cancelling the trip. I hope he will go through with it after the trip but with people in crisis you'll never know of course.
Originally Posted by LH19
So my question to you is that if you knew 100% he wasn't coming back would you tolerate his behavior?
I love this question. Thanks for asking. I cannot tolerate this behavior in any way, not if he is or is not coming back. I told him he could stay with us since he wanted to be with the people he loved but under certain conditions. He failed last Friday. That is why I made a new agreement with him. We will see in the near future if he can meet this new agreement.
