Quick catch-up. I moved back to my home state where my daughter is finishing college. Her doctor changed her meds and is now treating her for bipolar disassociated personality disorder. She was very concerned and it does explain many things. It’s also hereditary.
Around the same time the boys and I moved, XW moved to another city far away with OM2 and has a nice new job making good money.
Meanwhile, I now have all the kiddos in the same city and immensely happy here knowing my kiddos are with me. I even had the opportunity to take my first vacation trip overseas by myself and even went cave exploring and scuba dived, directly addressing my claustrophobic fears! It was amazing.
Over the holidays, XW began thinking about the kids a lot, growing nostalgic, and even brought up the idea of coming back here and getting a house together so the kids could come have a home to visit or even live with us.
I didn’t get excited or push, however I did ask a few days if she was being sincere about asking that. She said she was. A week went by and I asked her if she had a timeline in mind. She said no.
Then I went on vacation where I was updating our family chat group with photos and stories.
I said something odd I should not have. I told her I wished she was there experiencing this with me. She didn’t answer for. Couple days. I tried to play it off as no big deal and asked if the feelings weren’t mutual.
She said no, they were not.
Then today she sent me a long email saying she no longer wants to talk about our relationship. She accused me again of tricking her into signing over custody and using the kids as leverage to get her back, and that she will never live under the same roof as me. That she’s moved on and hopes I find someone special myself.
She also said going forward she will only talk to the kids over text, talk to me over email, and won’t talk to me unless it’s about the kids.
What the hell happened?
I’m at a bit of a loss. She has not spoken to my youngest in a year. Only texts. She hasn’t even seen her boys in more than two years. It’s been even longer for my daughter.
My inclination is to do absolutely nothing. No response. No acknowledgment. And leave it all alone.
I think I’ve just been given a gift. Not to necessarily give up on my marriage, but to let XW live in her decision and I go on living my life.
Does that sound about right?
Me: 48 WW: 43 OM: 53 met 12/16 to 10/19 M: 18 T: 20 D20 S18 S9 BD 05/22/16 W asked for D 6/20/16 D final 1/9/17
