Quote: As I've said before, she is a perfectionist and is successful at most everything she does. She doesn't think she's very good at sex, and this is so personal that she would rather not even try to improve than put herself on the line and make herself so vulnerable.
Wow, hairdog... that is a VERY important insight! That should inform your next moves. I imagine it might also lead to feelings of empathy on your part. Great going!
As I read your post, I was thinking that her behavior smacked of Marital Sadism, and perhaps it does, but I believe you're correct in thinking it comes from feelings of inadequacy. Now... what to do about it???
