I'm not familiar w/those movies. Hope you're doing alright. Anything you need advice on?
Actually, I do ;-). My IC advised me to share with my h what I need from him. This seems counter intuitive to everything I've read on this forum, however, is this a good idea? There is so much we need to discuss (Going to read the DR chapter on 'asking for what you need' on this).
SteveLW & LH19, thank you for your elaborate discussions of love, marriage, and relationships. My h and I met when neither one of us was a fully integrated, healthy person and we both probably presented ourselves as more stable than we were. I know I ignored red flags, one being that he was only able to to share and be vulnerable with me after he had had a few drinks. I myself, loved how much he seemed to love me (my self esteem was very low) and felt secure.
We have both grown a lot though over the years (or so I thought). There was a time, after MC, that we seemed to have made a huge leap in our communication and relationship. Add some distance however, and everything fell apart like a house of cards.
Since then he has been reaching out more, showing more interest, and making more of an effort. He even said that he feels bad that I have to do everything on my own (due to his work abroad). Prior to this, he seemed to have zero sympathy for me. I know these are scraps and nothing to get too excited about, but progress starts with mini steps (according to the DR book).
