Quote: Even when you DON'T pressure me, you are pressuring me. Just knowing you like I do, and knowing that you really want it, pressures me and reminds me of what a bad wife I am."
This is almost verbatim what my W tells me. She says that she knows what is going on in my head, and that my behavior, in not touching her, does not reflect my true feelings. WTF? When I told her to stop worrying about what I was feeling or thinking and to worry about herself, she kind of dismissed it, but I sure hope I at least planted a seed.
I think, all in all, I handled the situation okay. I wish my mom hadn't said what she did, but bygones.... Given her statement, and my W's reaction, I did what I thought was best: I waited until I thought she had cooled down; I tried to clue her in on the whole story; I considered her views, but ultimately dismissed them and I stuck to my viewpoint of things.
As for breaking down the wall, I don't think it's going to happen as the result of an argument. I think it will just have to crumble on its own. It will, as she realizes what a great guy I am, and how I'm not being unreasonable.
Hairdog - whose brain and mind and thoughts are his own.
