Wayfarer: come on, don’t take hours of conversation and try to boil down one comment into a sound bite for the entirety. Of course not. It was just another layer of the onion of understanding.
BL42: the DB coaching was really excellent. I think reading The Lost Art of Listening three times would be a cheaper way to get started. We worked on empathy and listening a lot with my coach as well as some other things. He helped me maintain my sanity.
He had coached several thousand over his career and said I was one of his better students in regards to making changes. I did like coaching because of the feedback and direction versus counseling. Anyhow, as things have gone all the way south, I got a lot of peace of mind knowing that I tried everything in my power to save the marriage.
