Sorry to hear your story, but I think this (the "I feel PRESSURE!") is a consistency theme among LDs. My wife always complains about "everyone relying on her," and "feeling everyone wanting things from me," and "everyone is 'at' me," etc. When I went to my no-pressure/"he-who-cares-the-least" thing a few years ago, and just backed off, I would point out to her "I hope you don't feel that from ME? When have I pressured you?"
Her response?
"Even when you DON'T pressure me, you are pressuring me. Just knowing you like I do, and knowing that you really want it, pressures me and reminds me of what a bad wife I am."
I'm paraphrasing, but not by much. Pretty amazing stuff, how if you pressure an LD, it is pressure, and if you DON'T pressure them, it is STILL pressure, because they know you really want it anyway.
