So your biggest faults in the entirety of you marriage was that you allowed bad behavior because you received negative attention from your mother and you were probably involved in a co-dependent relationship in which you were the one with dependency issues?

From a 30,000 ft view of yourself in that relationship and the relationship as a whole that's where you see your problems were? And absolutely nothing else?

Everything else was your exW being "a brat" or being "unhinged"?

I'm just trying to get this as clear as I can.