Would you believe I received a text message from my stbxw a few days back - out of the blue. Saying that she would prefer not to go to court and that she hopes I've settled in to my new home. She even ended it with "xx".
She said that she was thinking about replying to the closure letter that I had sent her (beginning of November), to explain the things I had "assumed", but I wouldn't have believed her, so she didn't. Hmmm.
After doing nothing but running me down, acting in an absolutely awful and disgusting manner, I get and "nice" text message. Chalk 'n' Cheese.
Anyway, I didn't respond and sent a copy to my lawyer as she said she preferred to settle out of court.
Put me on the back foot a bit as I haven't heard from her since she picked up her clothes at the beginning of July last year.
She has an objective: To not go to court. She is trying to get what she wants by manipulation. "Maybe if I am nice, he will give me what I want in the closure without going to court!"
Great job not taking the bait. That is why it doesn't add up. "After doing nothing but running me down, acting in an absolutely awful and disgusting manner, I get and "nice" text message."
When there is nothing she wants, she treats you poorly. Then when there is something she wants, she turns on the charm. Settling out of court only makes sense if you get what you deserve. Do not allow over compromise in the name of not going to court. No matter how sweet she becomes.
And be aware, you are likely to get a nasty gram if and when she doesn't get her way. It is the way WWs operate.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
