LH, what do you do at work that you have so much time to respond right away? They pay you to DB all day?
I imagine some men don’t have any game and think women love to have their looks commented on all the time. I do truly believe they believe that. But yikes, it’s weird. Maybe extra weird for me because that didn’t come later in life for me.
I imagine I’m a real tough sell these days.
I started out this year after a huge dry spell ( thanks covid and gaining weight and losing confidence ) then I just really craved intimacy and physical touch and I did my one nighters. ( 2 of them) then I met the guy I did really like and couldn’t work out. (LH, he’s the one with the 3 and 5 year old fresh divorced and has no desire to put effort into anything and liked hanging out once a month “if he had the chance” I ended that.
As for asking “how long have you been divorce” I always ask. Like 5% of the guys in my age range has been divorced greater than 2 years. Or they have never been married which loses its own challenges .
These studies are dumb . I’ll be the most unhappy at 45? Well, no. My timeline is hugely different from others. I was married with kid and divorced before 30. So obviously my life does not paralell the normal one. I truly believe 45 and up is going to be wonderful for me. Super hard to adjust to not having my other half around ( my daughter) but my world will open up in many ways. I imagine that age range you mention, LH is for people who are miserable on their marriages, or just coming out a marriage lost in this world. NOT ME!
LH, dad bod is not a pear shape with man boobs. It’s a guy who might have a bit of a guy, but obviously works out and has muscles. My favorite type. 6 packs did it for me in my 20’s, but now I like a guy with meat and muscles. A guy who eats cottage cheese as his favorite meal and is always in the gym and obsessed with his looks isn’t for me. Especially those who drink some crappy tasteless light beer. EEEEWWWWWW!
And a guy saying “you seem really cool, I would like to get to know you better” will totally get me interested. Sure, us women like to hear we are pretty, but more so once you get to know us. And I’m all about the sexy talk when we have established a connection. Not when we don’t know eachother .
Still not active on dating apps. Horse guy just keeps messaging me even when i don’t respond. He works nights and I work days and my days have been nuts. I keep meeting guys who work the opposite shift. Would have been nice when I worked nights to meet a guy who worked nights, lol. But then again, I was married and then divorced with a baby when I worked nights
I picked up 3 extra shifts this month. I got offered at my salaried job to fill in a blank for overtime and not comp time the way it usually is. So I took it. I work Saturday. Took another shift at the end of the month. Basically I am working 4 weekends in a row. But it’s money. I’m exhausted and burnt out, but I see dollar signs .that’s where my focus is. Might as well make the dough in the winter when there is nothing else to do.
My life right now is work and gym and throw in parenting and adulting.
