what I can't stand is the fact that over a year later and still when I am enjoying myself with the kids (like the water balloon fight we just had) I am suddenly brought to thoughts of..."h misses out on a lot by working so much" only then to be reminded of bad thoughts "yeah right LL, you thought he was missing out by working so much before and where did that get you? he was spending his afternoons with ow"
ugh!!
I know that such thoughts wont go away if I were to give up and say forget it I just can't get over it but how the heck do you other survivors do it?
my guess would be that things are different than they were before and that you are getting reassurances from your spouses while I for whatever reason am not.
