But Christmas was more difficult than I anticipated. I did message a quick "Happy Thanksgiving" to her sister over that Holiday and that sort of opened up lines of communication with her.
so before Christmas, prior to ex-wife coming in town to visit her family, I messaged her sister just laying out what really happened during the past 9-10 months.
She gets back with me, and she had no idea about any of it. She didn't know ex wife was seeing this guy, living with him in Colorado. She thought was she just living there alone.
So I made it all clear. Yes, that's what's going on, and in fact she brought this clown in our home, with me there, and tried to get me to go to bed early so she could spend time with him-- such a huge personal violation. That's my home.
So I get an email from my ex-wife saying "STOP" -- that her sister is "too nice" to tell me to stop emailing her, that the communication is unwanted etc. etc.
The I notice that she is deleting pictures of us on Instagram (since Iam tagged in them) and can watch her image count go down. I know exactly what happened-- her sister brought all this up, my ex wife got angry about it, got all cranked up on wine and started deleting pictures of us. ;D ;D
A few days later her sister emails me, telling me that she did not read my emails to Amanda, but she did mention affair partner and Amanda didn't admit to anything but just got really angry. She said she did not tell her the communication was unwanted and she will email with whoever she pleases. ;D ;D
I am glad that I emailed her sister. There is nothing wrong with making the truth known. Ex wife wants to control the entire narrative and ease this clown into her family eventually. She thinks time is the key to making all this work, that with time family and friends will accept all this and she can bend the story to her will. I am sure she will argue that their relationship happened organically after our divorce and that she did nothing wrong.
It is clear now that her main focus was individually getting with each friend and family member to attempt to control her made up version of the narrative-- anytime I spoke to anyone and simply, calmly told the truth she'd get really angry.
It does her friends and family no justice to believe her lies. I feel like I at least laid the truth out there so they know who they are dealing with moving forward.
All this is just insane. I keep forgetting that she attempted to frame with with the cops due to all the other wild $h!te that's happened!
