LL, I haven't given up hope that there is a way to deal with this. I'm still racking my brain trying to think of a creative idea...will let you know if I have one.
I did want to address something Andy said about backslides here on the BB. I find that with all the information at my fingertips...while actively trying to address my old habits...I STILL slip into old habits without realizing it.
How much harder it must be for your Husband, LL.
Honeypot said:
Not because he doesn't enjoy me, but because he has come to fear being around me because he knows that he has probably screwed up somewhere. So I nip it in the bud and tell him what to do. He seems relieved to have a "map" to follow in which he knows that his actions will be pleasing to me.
I can relate to this well.
I've noticed lately that I'll talk to husband about something that is bothering me. And I can now see the anxiety in his eyes that he doesn't know how to respond. Actually, come to think of it, he has asked me a couple of times what response I am looking for from him.
Sometimes I don't know what I need from him...so we are learning together.
I praise him when something he does/said helps me.
I guess, Honey, we are looking for that map together. I appreciate your words...as it brought up to my concious something that has been tugging at me.
I wish I could give you more than a Hug, LL...will keep thinking.
