BL, you make a good point. But the problem is that you cannot control your spouse.
Understood, hence the "But, as is pointed out here, that's not up to us.". Just pointing out it seems the "better off" comments don't necessarily factor in the "what could have been". But completely understand that depends on both parties and we can only control on our actions.
Yeah I remembered you saying that as I typed. Just wanted to make sure any other LBSs with obstinate WASs understood that fully. Scott, I believe, can move forward knowing he did all he could to give her every chance to decide to stay and work. I know in my case, if my W had remained a WW and a WAW, I could look back a year on and say I did everything to give her every opportunity to stay and work. If she had not decided to do that I could have moved forward with no regrets. I think the key is that for the LBS the WAS staying and NOT working is not an option. It shouldn't be a "hold this together for as long as we can no matter what!" scenario. MR1.0 is dead. The only future is D or MR2.0. So many LBHs in particular are willing to let their WAW stay and not work, setting up a future new BD.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
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