Hey BL, I’m on my phone so i can’t quite right, but let’s what I can do.
What gets creepy about the men who are physically attracted to me is that they don’t stop mentioning it. I get men are visual creatures. But when we barely have connected on other level and you keep mentioning how attractive I am I just think “I know where this is going !” It gets uncomfortable. Part of it may be my defenses are up from the gross men. Part of it may be that I was not attractive until maybe 17/18. I always relied on my personality which I think is my best feature! Also, when my ex was telling me he was leaving me , I was 6 months post partum not feeling my most beautiful . He wouldn’t tell me why he was leaving and k had to keep guessing. I said “is it the pregnancy weight?!?” And his response was “no, I still think you are hot” and that Made me feel like he hated who I was as a person.
As far as interest in me. I like it. It doesn’t turn me off. When it just so forward with the constant physical comments like I said, I do get uncomfortable. I get scared to meet the person. And yes! Don, that is what I’m thinking. “He doesn’t even know me, how can he be so into me?!!” Maybe if we had a chance to connect and really talk and get to know eachother I would understand why he would be excited to meet me. I would be excited too! But someone is overly excited without knowing jackshit about me, that makes my hair stand up
As far as me being physically attracted. I don’t have a type . I dated a lot of guys who weren’t a hard no one the physical side, but definitely not a hell yeah. I figured connection could develop. But when the connection didn’t I couldn’t find them attractive. And chemistry wise, I know fireworks aren’t important. Or a thing really. But chemistry would be nice. Only one guy fit that bill. The chemistry was there. He was short with a dad bod. I do like dad bods. They say “I work out but I can still enjoy beer and wings. Just like me, my body says “I work out, but I still enjoy beer French fries and ice cream” I totally like a guy who isn’t obsessed with his body, but takes care of it and still enjoys some of the good things in life in moderation.
I hope that my point of view helps men date. I may be a little extra jaded. My geographical location doesn’t help. It’s a very populated one, but when the pool is very big, that doesn’t always help. My age range is a bunch of newly divorced men who are free from one partner they had for the last 15-20 years. They see themselves as being broken out of prison, ready for multiple partners and not to have to commit to any women and just do what they want when they want. It’s been hard for me to be a 28 year old divorcee with a kid. I’ve always been I’m a very different place than people in my age range to date. I actually thought it would be easier, but I’m facing the same challenges!
I think 45 is going to be a game changer for me. Most people don’t want to age, but I can’t wait. It’s going to be the start of something new for me. I already begged my daughter if I can move into her dorm, she said no. ( I don’t get it) so I’ll be starting a whole new phase in my life
