Quote: But FWIW, I don't believe it's either. I think it's a combination of stress and bad habits.
I'll buy that. However it appeared that h did learn that his habbits were bad and was trying to change them but poof! he seems to have forgotten what he learned. Those bad habbits were learned probably long before I met him...I hate to blame parents but sheesh...his parents are classic conflict avoiders (or rather solution avoiders) fil will only deal with so much and then goes running when things get too emotional..mil?? well let's just say she's spent years at a time not speaking to her sister or locking herself in her room when she's upset. Dealing with issues? don't think h got a good example of that other than as being the boss and laying down the law..trouble is I'm not one of his employees.
Quote: Is he capable of an intimate relationship? I think he is.
sure anythings possible...but let's not forget that the supposed "in love" connection he left for was with a woman who was also married living her own life..so true intimacy??
Quote: He just doesn’t know how to do it, or doesn’t think he can.
or the time or the desire...the motivation??? well a pretty good wife and two great kids, not to mention the damn nice house we live in...but then he's got all that at a distance so...
we are talking about a man who's r with his family is often simply related to business, who only has one friend and that friend didn't even know that he wasn't living here for over 6 months.
He seems very much to be an island...but if someone chooses to be an island or is happy that way why would they take on an extramarital relationship?
