I don't know what kinds of assets there are or whether you're in a community property state. Just be careful about certain things. Division of pensions should go through QDRO. Alimony may be by a formula in your state, but can always be negotiated I think. If you are keeping the house and giving away something in it's place, beware of one things - high property values at present may be inflated - will you still be happy with the deal if property values crash and you've given away a lot of money to keep the house? Or is the house still a good fit for you and something you want to keep long term and can afford?
Does she have an obligation to contribute to your sons' college expenses?
