the thing that no one's mentioning is age playing a factor. single people of a certain age are single for a multiplicity of reasons which add up to one thing: we're not young, fresh and without baggage.
I tried the online thing. It was a huge turnoff for me. I won't venture back. If I date at all it's going to be meeting someone organically in the wild, as it were ... I feel much safer taking my chances there, but diff strokes for diff folks ...
BF what was your issues with it.
1. so many creepy guys - they outnumbered the nice guys at least 30:1. I mean, from downright gross to inappropriate. Think about being in a nightclub. The worst of them are the guys who come up and won't go away, start grabbing, etc. or heaping verbal abuse when you aren't interested. The mildest of the offensive all were too pushy on the front end, implying a sexual overtone way too soon - like opening line or shortly thereafter. Gee, do they consider foreplay a resounding, "BRaaaace yerself Brigit" ????? Good grief! Just gross.
2. then there was the really creepy guy who kept trying to match me (this happened at least 4 times) by deleting and reposting his profile to try to game the weeding out process. I actually reported him because he was borderline stalkerish.
3. Just like IRL I am very picky. I weeded through so many profiles, but didn't find many who peaked my interest, so it seemed like a lot of effort for not a lot of return. I did go on a coffee date with one guy - he was nice, but I really didn't feel a spark and his crazy ex (with the permanent restraining order because of her violent tendencies/mental illness) was a total dealbreaker.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
