Quote: Occassionally h will go on a little helpful cleaning spree..emptying the small waiste baskets etc. I appreciate it and have told him so but it's not what I want from him. I'd much rather he spend the 15 minutes adoring me or talking to me and then I would happily empty the baskets myself. I want qt and physical affection, throw in some words of affirmation and I'm happy. acts of service? well they're nice and I'll accept them for what they are but I don't need them same goes for gifts...it's more the thought and time that I desire. (among other chores).
Have you said that to H....in those EXACT words???? When H is going on a cleaning spree, is that his way of trying to reach out to you and please you? If you haven't actually TOLD H exactly what would really make you feel better, maybe he really doesn't know and is reaching out in the way he knows best, and when you thank him for it (which I think you should), he will continue to do it again because you have told him you like it. JMHO
