It has been my experience, LH, that some men have equally high expectations. But, why is having high expectations a bad thing? While you might not be put off by the women I was talking about, a lot of men would be, so the whole thing is a crapshoot. I'm not saying that is a bad thing either way...just an observation. And, I absolutely could not agree more that it is sad that bad people ruin it for everyone else. It's a mixed bag, honestly, because good can come from it and I'm actually proof of that, since Sparky and I met OLD, but not everyone is as lucky. I think a lot of things play into it, actually. Geographical location is a huge factor, I think (and could totally be wrong). I think what, specifically, you are looking for makes a huge difference as well.
I guess the world would be perfect or I would be a gazillionaire because I solved all the world's problems, if we could "fix" OLD, but it is what it is.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids