I've always told you to go with your gut on the EA/PA issue. Their mouth may lie, but their actions won't. I know that you want some ideas, solutions, answers, but I just don't have it in me right now.
I have several questions which may sound strange. You have said that he has cut off contact with the OW who still wants to be a client. Is she a client again? If she is brought up in conversation does he defend her or acknowledge it was a mistake? If he did have a PA with her and admitted it, could you forgive him deep in your heart and move forward or would you leave? This also assumes that he becomes a husband and not just the paycheck of the family....
HFrom what I hear form you, everything is HIS, kids, house, money, possessions. Where do you fit in his view of life? He does not give you the time and tenderness that a wife should have, so what does he consider you? A servant? I wonder sometimes when I read your posts..
Sorry my dear for dredging all this up, and I know that you have explored this ad nausum, but sometimes you have a different perspective than you did awhile ago.
((LL))
Johanna
Besides, I think that we could have one he!! of a bitch session together.... might be cathartic and theraputic for both of us.
