There's a lot of Love Avoidant guys out there. And also a hella lot of guys who'll date and sleep with a woman just because she's available and not because they have any serious interest in an actual relationship with her. The challenge for a woman dating to find a serious relationship is to weed those guys out. I've found that if a guy is seriously interested, he'll plan dates in advance, he'll put some effort in. And generally, the less available I am in the beginning, the more interested he'll be. Not that I'm any good at pretending to be unavailable, it's just that the times when I was genuinely too busy to see a new date, always seemed to increase their interest.
At this point, I plan on taking a very long - maybe permanent - break from dating. If I were to date again in the future, I might be the actual Love Avoidant right now. I like the companionship but don't particularly like actually living with someone else 24/7 (guess I'm getting set in my ways!). Sex is great but CMM's shoes would be hard to fill in that department. My life is full with friends and family and work and music. I may work on cultivating a larger friend circle rather than dating.
