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Dawn I am here to help. I think Butterfly also has a hard time understanding the HHH concept.

MY understanding of that whole HHH concept was a very casual "fling" (for lack of a better word) and it could be an on-going thing.

This is correct it could be all of the above.

Not really a relationship, per se, but just a casual partnership with no strings.

So you can HHH in a no strings casual partnership or you can HHH in the beginning of a monogamous relationship. You can even HHH in a marriage.

Likely to last for more than one meet-up, since that is just a one-night stand, but not really leading anywhere serious.

So I personally HHH on the way to a serious relationship. At some point it becomes monogamous.

Now, I said when we first discussed this and I will say now, that kind of thing never worked for me personally.

So you don't like to hang out, have fun and hook up with Sparky?

If it does work for folks, more power to them. Just not my speed and that is ok.

That is ok. It worked like a charm in two of the the three post D relationships I had and was working in the other until the ex boyfriend came back.

I do think, though, as a person in a committed marriage that there are times when my husband and I do just have a very casual ease to our relationship that could be akin to HHH, but we are committed so technically it is more than HHH.

Nah. You're HHHing and loving every minute of it.

I totally get why G is looking for a deeper connection. Maybe there does come a point in time where HHH just doesn't work and someone wants/needs more.

There does and that is the point that G hates about it. The true premise of HHHing is that a man typically screws up and wants to lock a woman down too early. So he keeps setting dates and takes the woman out axe throwing, to see bands, dinner, festivals etc. and they hangout, have fun, and hook up. Always keeping it fun, light, positive, engaging etc. Making her feel safe at her pace. Women take longer then men to fall in love. Eventually a woman will say "where do you see this going?". She is giving you the greenlight to take it to the next level. More intimacy, a deeper connection etc.

In my last relationship I wasn't ready for the next level because I was unsure so it ended. We could have kept HHHing but she said no. I had to live with that because it was the right thing to do.

Hope this helps.