Another year in life of

[Dawn70]

Yeah you can only HHH for so long. Relationships are about value. The rare traits are like precious gems. Hard to find.

Not sure why I always feel the need to defend myself, but I have a question and it is a serious question...I'm not trying to be a smart a$$ or argumentative in any way. I'm confused and it may very well be that I'm misreading or misinterpreting what I read, but I could've sworn, LH, that on a recent post to either G or CW that you basically said that HHH was something that went on prior to a relationship but also within a relationship and now you are saying HHH can only last for so long. Those of us who have been around awhile have thrown this HHH thing around and I was never a big advocate of it or the coach that you and some others were so fond of, so that is why I'm saying I promise I'm not being a smart aleck, but am just genuinely confused about which it is....HHH can be ongoing or it can't?

MY understanding of that whole HHH concept was a very casual "fling" (for lack of a better word) and it could be an on-going thing. Not really a relationship, per se, but just a casual partnership with no strings. Likely to last for more than one meet-up, since that is just a one-night stand, but not really leading anywhere serious. Now, I said when we first discussed this and I will say now, that kind of thing never worked for me personally. If it does work for folks, more power to them. Just not my speed and that is ok. I do think, though, as a person in a committed marriage that there are times when my husband and I do just have a very casual ease to our relationship that could be akin to HHH, but we are committed so technically it is more than HHH.

I totally get why G is looking for a deeper connection. Maybe there does come a point in time where HHH just doesn't work and someone wants/needs more.